Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Quick poly analogy about “fairness”

"If you ate a cookie and my cookie fell on the floor in the middle of a New York City gutter, you have to find the nearest restroom facility and puke up your cookie."

Love & Relationships

Deconstructing the destruction: How Professor Snape and Lily Potter’s eyes can help you process your most recent breakup

I used to "fall in love" online every twenty-two minutes. That's an exaggeration, but suffice it to say that as a very young adult (and sometimes teenager) I would meet people online and start developing emotional attachments to them very quickly. It was easy to do this. I didn't know they snored. Or subscribed to… Continue reading Deconstructing the destruction: How Professor Snape and Lily Potter’s eyes can help you process your most recent breakup

Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

My giddy teenager

I've written about "my little" before, but I'd stopped updating my index at that point and I can't remember what I titled it, so ... I dunno, it's somewhere in that mountain of writing. So is the metaphor of all of these different aspects of my personality being passengers on a "bus" that take their… Continue reading My giddy teenager


Shooting spitballs at butterflies

They met in the caterpillar colony, under the shade of a broad leaf. "What are you doing?" she asked. "I'm shooting spitballs at butterflies." he responded. She seemed puzzled. "The butterflies are beautiful and free. Why are you shooting spitballs at them?" He shrugged. "They're not any better than we are. And when I hit… Continue reading Shooting spitballs at butterflies

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The Collar

I have lots of collars.  Lots and lots and lots.  They're accessories, though, like the many many rings i have and wear when I'm dressing up for a special occasion. But not like the rings I keep tucked in a special box in my jewelry drawer:  my engagement and wedding rings. Those are different.  Those… Continue reading The Collar

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Open Relationships; Closed Minds (a rant)

Note: This is a rant about something I experienced today. I do not think ALL poly people are this way. Not even ALL the poly people in the chatroom where this happened felt this way. Just the very vocal ones. But I'm upset by it and I need to vent, so...boom: blog post. I asked… Continue reading Open Relationships; Closed Minds (a rant)

Love & Relationships

Critical Thinking

Yesterday, NPR reposted a story to their facebook page from 2014. The article title was: Why doesn't America read anymore? If you clicked through to read the article, it wished you a happy April Fool's Day and explained that they wanted to see how many people actually read the stories vs how many people just… Continue reading Critical Thinking