I don’t really feel like I have that much more to say on the topic of polyamory, mono+poly, relationship anarchy or any other term to describe a relationship that is not entirely monogamous on purpose. It’s not to say I never will have anything to say again; I just don’t right now. I don’t even talk about it on tiktok anymore, aside from the very occasional “Boring Polyamory” update, which is exactly what it sounds like.
And yet, I still get roughly 400-500 visits to this page every week, and more when someone posts a link to it somewhere out there (usually reddit or a multiamory podcast forum).
Each year around this time, I get notified that the fee to keep this blog going is about to be charged. Each year I think about whether or not it needs to stay active, and each year I determine that because people are still getting some benefit from it – it should remain active. Besides, it’s been referenced and linked to in many podcasts, other blogs, and even printed books!
But it is costing me roughly $100 annually to keep this going, and while that’s not very much – it’s also not nothing at all.
So, if you are here and you find it valuable, or you find yourself referencing it regularly or sending it to other friend who are new to the polyamory or mono+polyam dynamic, and you want to throw a couple dollars my way – I would be beyond grateful.
I recently started a new blog project – Dear Future Phi. A few months ago I realized that my primary audience when I’m posting on social media is most often a future version of myself who so very much enjoys taking the scroll down memory lane from time to time. I’ve updated my username on both bluesky and tiktok to DearFuturePhi – ending a near 10 year stretch as @polyammering on all sites, everywhere.
So, while I don’t have a lot of new things to say on the topic of nonmonogamy or kink or whatever – I am working on a huge landscaping project at home, about to undergo a major surgery, and have been transforming my physical body for over a year and a half – and I’d like somewhere to chronicle all of that for my future self (and anybody else who wants to keep up with what’s going on in my life.
Ultimately, I do not want to shut down this website. I do not and have never been able to successfully monetize it, and I’m no longer accepting coaching clients to help offset the cost of it.
Like I said, $100 a year isn’t that big a deal and I can definitely afford it – but there will come a time ten years from now where $100 became $1000 that could have gone elsewhere.
At some point I will publish a book that is essentially a collection of relevant essays from this site, organized in a way that makes sense for people who are getting started. Maybe when that happens, the site comes down – I don’t know.
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