Politics

On Protests and Parades: an examination of my privilege and the downside of hope

It might feel like a good thing to wish that this was all over and that nobody would get hurt and that property wouldn't be vandalized, stolen, or burned; but it doesn't feel right - knowing that nothing will change until shit gets uncomfortable or inconvenient enough for those of us who don't seem to be willing to do the right thing until it affects us directly.

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

Adjusting to Change with Compassion and Authenticity

We need to have compassion for one another regardless of our individual circumstances. Comparing hardships is about as helpful as comparing partners – it’s not.

Love & Relationships

Polyammering Podcast: S201: Season 2 Preview Mini Episode

Season 2 Begins Now! In this mini episode I provide an update on what to expect from Season 2 of the podcast and share some thoughts on how the global Covid-19 pandemic will affect the nature of our relationships moving forward. Want to be a guest on Polyammering Season 2? Contact me! I want to… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast: S201: Season 2 Preview Mini Episode

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

What’s in it for the mono person in the relationship?

That's when the forensic relationship accounting begins. Someone (usually the mono person in the relationship) begins looking at the relationship the way an accountant might view a business profit and loss statement. They are able to clearly see the benefits for their polyamorous partner, and perhaps even for their newfound metamour - but on their own end, all they see are big red expenses.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Health and Wellness in Polyamory: (or how reading about the coronavirus turned into a blog post)

While I'm probably not the person to write the post that tells all the polycules ten surefire ways to avoid getting and transmitting coronavirus, I am the person that writes the post that tells all the polycules that the conversation about establishing your polycule's health and wellness protocols should be included in your polyamory starter-pack.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

Can you even cheat in polyamory?

More often than not, when people avoid telling their partner something they know should tell them because they're worried it might cause a fight or a breakup, there's a chance their partner will consider it cheating.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

An exploration of my “demisexuality”

She’s right there, asking me “But what If I do have sex with someone else and I end up feeling awful about it? What if I get my heart broken or my ego bruised? What if it makes me so emotional that it scares them off ‘cause now I’m crying and I can’t explain why? What if they feel used because this all turns out to prove that I’m not polyamorous and I can’t do it?”

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Holiday stress and polyamory

By now (if you're in the United States), you've likely had at least one conversation about how your polycule is going to handle Thanksgiving (or Friendsgiving), and I'm guessing there's more than a handful of hinge partners out there that are starting to feel the pressure of multiple paramours vying for spots on the holiday calendar.