Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Sabotage by Comparison

imagine if every time I started dating a polyamorous person, I gave up on the relationship because I compared our relationship to one they enjoyed with someone else - whether it's someone they had been with for years or someone they'd just started dating.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

The other side of the comparison trap

We've been socialized since birth to view everything in terms of "which is better, which is worse" and it's really difficult to unlearn that habit.