Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

Adjusting to Change with Compassion and Authenticity

We need to have compassion for one another regardless of our individual circumstances. Comparing hardships is about as helpful as comparing partners โ€“ itโ€™s not.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

Monocorn Sanctuary Testimonials

Iโ€™ve been challenged here, and Iโ€™ve been supported. I feel this place has given me the space and the grace to put words to my feelings, and names to the dynamics Iโ€™ve dealt with.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Answering a question: How hard is it to find the right polycule and work out all the “growing pains?”

It's easy when it happens organically without any prior agenda the way winning the lottery is easy, but you'll most certainly experience many losses along the way and a win is not guaranteed.

Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Reflections on widowhood

. But when I parent my inner child - that little collection of her memories that I carry - I finally understand at how society, my family, and my beloved late husband had all molded into their version of who they wanted me to be.

Kinkstuff

My First “Official” BDSM Experience

He began pulling things out from the suitcase, one at a time, showing them to me - explaining to me what they were, how they were used, and then he'd use it gently on my outstretched arm. After each item he would ask me how I felt about it, have me rate my level of interest in using it, and set it aside.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Sabotage by Comparison

imagine if every time I started dating a polyamorous person, I gave up on the relationship because I compared our relationship to one they enjoyed with someone else - whether it's someone they had been with for years or someone they'd just started dating.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving

A New Chapter: Moving in with my metamour

I think there was a moment when I had the full realization that a non-romantic partner could be as important to me as a romantic partner - which, when I type it out right now seems like, "well, duh..." but in that moment it felt like an epiphany.

Politics

On Protests and Parades: an examination of my privilege and the downside of hope

It might feel like a good thing to wish that this was all over and that nobody would get hurt and that property wouldn't be vandalized, stolen, or burned; but it doesn't feel right - knowing that nothing will change until shit gets uncomfortable or inconvenient enough for those of us who don't seem to be willing to do the right thing until it affects us directly.