imagine if every time I started dating a polyamorous person, I gave up on the relationship because I compared our relationship to one they enjoyed with someone else - whether it's someone they had been with for years or someone they'd just started dating.
The next thing you know, the insecurity is in control not only of the established relationship, but its tendrils are reaching in and poking at the soft spots in the nascent one as well.
Seren (they/them) is bi-gendered and bisexual and lives in the Philadelphia area. Seren’s someone I met through the polyamory facebook groups a few years ago. They’ve made so much progress in that time in understanding how to navigate polyamory with mental illness, since being diagnosed with Bipolar 2, Borderline Personality Disorder, and PTSD. Seren has… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 07: Seren on navigating mental illness and polyamory
We've been socialized since birth to view everything in terms of "which is better, which is worse" and it's really difficult to unlearn that habit.
Anne More (she/her) is a certified sex geek and self-described "late poly bloomer" who didn't open up her relationship(s) until after the age of 50. Learn how she keeps the spark alive in two long distance relationships, and how learning more about her body and her sexuality changed her life. See her in person at… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast – Anne the Sex Geek (Episode 02)
My aunt, on the topic of love, has always said "when you feel, you know..." and I was starting to think that the concept of boundaries was as nebulous as trying to define the concept of love.
I would never have to enjoy my life without him. I would have my pepperoni forever. He made me happy. He loved me. I loved him. This whole pizza thing was making me hungry and confused.
What if where you are in your life is EXACTLY where you're supposed to be right now? What would that be like, to stop comparing your current location to a perceived end-game?
As a monoamorous person who has dated a handful of polyamorous partners over the last four years, I am happy to say that I have never had to increase or reduce the number of people I have wanted to be in a relationship with to make any partner happy.
When you're saying "it's fine" and it's clearly not.