Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

What’s in it for the mono person in the relationship?

That's when the forensic relationship accounting begins. Someone (usually the mono person in the relationship) begins looking at the relationship the way an accountant might view a business profit and loss statement. They are able to clearly see the benefits for their polyamorous partner, and perhaps even for their newfound metamour - but on their own end, all they see are big red expenses.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

Can you even cheat in polyamory?

More often than not, when people avoid telling their partner something they know should tell them because they're worried it might cause a fight or a breakup, there's a chance their partner will consider it cheating.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

Move the Goal Post: On relationship “failures”

Imagine thinking that you failed at accepting polyamory in one sentence, and in the next being so fully accepting of his polyamorous identity that you're willing to end the relationship rather than try to force him to change.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Thoughts on the “Green Flags” in relationships meme

There's a new meme going around, and I like a LOT of what it has to say. In case you haven't seen it, it's the one that suggests a more positive approach to evaluating your relationship(s). Instead of looking for "red flags," it invites people to look at the "green flags."

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

(Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit

I have tried nearly every other form of exercise I can think of. Weight lifting. Boot camp. Running. Hiking. Walking. Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Even Tai Chi! I like them for a session or two. I think with that bootcamp workout, I actually stuck it out for a solid month, but that was a long time… Continue reading (Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

Are you punishing your partner for disappointing you, and is it worth it when it works to get you what you want?

How's Lady Macbeth going to handle it when this tactic turns her into the villain?

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The one that explains how I think boundaries work

My aunt, on the topic of love, has always said "when you feel, you know..." and I was starting to think that the concept of boundaries was as nebulous as trying to define the concept of love.