Kinkstuff

My First “Official” BDSM Experience

He began pulling things out from the suitcase, one at a time, showing them to me - explaining to me what they were, how they were used, and then he'd use it gently on my outstretched arm. After each item he would ask me how I felt about it, have me rate my level of interest in using it, and set it aside.

Kinkstuff, podcast

Polyammering Podcast Episode 15: Anton Fulmen on the Intersection of Polyamory and Power Exchange

une in for a lengthy and fascinating discussion with Anton Fulmen, a kink and sexuality author and educator who specializes in consensual power exchange.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

Move the Goal Post: On relationship “failures”

Imagine thinking that you failed at accepting polyamory in one sentence, and in the next being so fully accepting of his polyamorous identity that you're willing to end the relationship rather than try to force him to change.

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Does the flu shot cause insomina? and other middle-of-the-night musings

I want to do it again. I want to understand why last night my tolerance for pain was so high I couldn't feel any of it; where other nights the sting of a slap on the ass makes the walls turn white.

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs, Self-Discovery

Experiencing “top space” through hedonism

...there were moments when my every move stopped being about what I thought would get him excited, and became purely about what was driving my own pleasure.