Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The one that explains how I think boundaries work

My aunt, on the topic of love, has always said "when you feel, you know..." and I was starting to think that the concept of boundaries was as nebulous as trying to define the concept of love.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

I went on a date and the world didn’t end

Identities, for me, are not permanent. Well, not all of them, anyway. I allow for plenty of fluidity and lots of possibility for change in my life, so when I say I am monoamorous, I generally mean "have been up to this point in my life."

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Why I sometimes imagine the possibility that I could be polyamorous

Once or twice a year I let my mind wander and imagine what it would be like to have another romantic relationship in addition to the amazing one I'm already in.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Family Relationships, Love & Relationships, Memoirs, Self-Discovery

The Pizza Analogy

I would never have to enjoy my life without him. I would have my pepperoni forever. He made me happy. He loved me. I loved him. This whole pizza thing was making me hungry and confused.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Texting while Polyamoring

There was that one time when he had me tied up and was in the middle of sexytimes with me when she called...

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Does the flu shot cause insomina? and other middle-of-the-night musings

I want to do it again. I want to understand why last night my tolerance for pain was so high I couldn't feel any of it; where other nights the sting of a slap on the ass makes the walls turn white.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Toxic Relationship Memes

The patterns exist and are recognizable. They are reinforced by the messages we consume, whether they are generated from the society's large-scale mononormative culture, or the small microcosms of polyamorous subcultures. We internalize and normalize them until we don't even see them anymore.