Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

Adjusting to Change with Compassion and Authenticity

We need to have compassion for one another regardless of our individual circumstances. Comparing hardships is about as helpful as comparing partners – it’s not.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

What’s in it for the mono person in the relationship?

That's when the forensic relationship accounting begins. Someone (usually the mono person in the relationship) begins looking at the relationship the way an accountant might view a business profit and loss statement. They are able to clearly see the benefits for their polyamorous partner, and perhaps even for their newfound metamour - but on their own end, all they see are big red expenses.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Health and Wellness in Polyamory: (or how reading about the coronavirus turned into a blog post)

While I'm probably not the person to write the post that tells all the polycules ten surefire ways to avoid getting and transmitting coronavirus, I am the person that writes the post that tells all the polycules that the conversation about establishing your polycule's health and wellness protocols should be included in your polyamory starter-pack.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

Can you even cheat in polyamory?

More often than not, when people avoid telling their partner something they know should tell them because they're worried it might cause a fight or a breakup, there's a chance their partner will consider it cheating.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Holiday stress and polyamory

By now (if you're in the United States), you've likely had at least one conversation about how your polycule is going to handle Thanksgiving (or Friendsgiving), and I'm guessing there's more than a handful of hinge partners out there that are starting to feel the pressure of multiple paramours vying for spots on the holiday calendar.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Mono friendly does not mean poly hating

What I really want to do is help people understand that there are healthy and unhealthy ways to do either, and there is definitely a way to make it work when a partnership has one of each.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Thoughts on the “Green Flags” in relationships meme

There's a new meme going around, and I like a LOT of what it has to say. In case you haven't seen it, it's the one that suggests a more positive approach to evaluating your relationship(s). Instead of looking for "red flags," it invites people to look at the "green flags."

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Polyammering Podcast Episode 10: Kyra Grosman

Kyra Grosman is a Brooklyn-based therapist who’s doing something really interesting – he is offering consultation and ongoing supervision for mental health professionals who are working with polyamorous or ethically nonmonogamous patients. Kyra himself has a fascinating story that he shares with us. He doesn’t actually identify as polyamorous himself, but more along the lines… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 10: Kyra Grosman

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Polyammering Podcast Episode 09: Talk about Annie Frazier

Episode nine features the lovely Annie Frazier (she/her or they/them). She's the host of Talk About Love podcast, and shares about the year and a half she spent "re-landscaping" her relationship from a married primary structure to solo-poly life.

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

(Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit

I have tried nearly every other form of exercise I can think of. Weight lifting. Boot camp. Running. Hiking. Walking. Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Even Tai Chi! I like them for a session or two. I think with that bootcamp workout, I actually stuck it out for a solid month, but that was a long time… Continue reading (Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit