Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

It’s not “fine.”

When you're saying "it's fine" and it's clearly not.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Roller Coasters and Trampolines

Do your ups and downs have forward motion -- or do you keep revisiting the same spot over and over again? 

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The Honesty Exchange (Revisited)

It looks a little bit like the symbol for recycling - not a one-for-one exchange, but symbiotic exchange running on a continuous loop.

Politics

Angry White Woman

I'm angry. I'm angry, and it's not just because recent events have exposed my complacency with an imbalanced system because I was under the impression that "things will get better." I mean, that makes me angry. It makes me angry to have been so wrong. It means I was believing lies and avoiding truths. There… Continue reading Angry White Woman

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Trust and responsibility in BDSM

In one of my early posts on Fetlife long ago, I wrote "It's not that I'm lying when I tell you I'm okay; it's that it isn't until much later that I realize I was mistaken." This week, there have been a couple posts out and about that are debating the issue of ...I guess… Continue reading Trust and responsibility in BDSM

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Politics

Using my words

Once upon a time I thought I was telepathic. No, not really, but once upon a time, I behaved as though the men I was interested in could read my mind. With a look or a series of hints, I could convey my desires and they'd have the option to either make them happen or… Continue reading Using my words

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Change your Cookbook: A monogamuggle’s guide to cookin’ with polyfolk

First, I'll establish my credentials: I'm a monogamous (or mono-amorous) person in a relationship with a polyamorous man. My monogamy is my choice, not necessarily his preference just as his polyamory is his choice, not necessarily my preference. We've been at it for just over a year now and it's going really swell. I have,… Continue reading Change your Cookbook: A monogamuggle’s guide to cookin’ with polyfolk