Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Trust and responsibility in BDSM

In one of my early posts on Fetlife long ago, I wrote "It's not that I'm lying when I tell you I'm okay; it's that it isn't until much later that I realize I was mistaken." This week, there have been a couple posts out and about that are debating the issue of ...I guess… Continue reading Trust and responsibility in BDSM

Kinkstuff, Self-Discovery

Defining my kink, and not the other way around

Sometimes my inspiration is a pharmaceutical commercial at 5am. This one started with the statement "Your body was made for better things than rheumatoid arthritis." My kinky brain finished the rest of the thought before I flipped the window to see what the images were that went along with the thoughts. "Your body was made… Continue reading Defining my kink, and not the other way around

Erotica, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs

One Lucky Whore

When I miss him, I ask if I can "see" him and he sends me a selfie. I was still three days away from seeing him again. He sent me a selfie. He was smiling in it. "is that smile for me?" I asked him. "The smile. The photo. The excitement." I grinned. "Oh, but… Continue reading One Lucky Whore

Erotica, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs


Beads of sweat still glistened, trapped in the soft hairs of his chest and belly. She gently wiped them away with the tip of a finger, one by one, reminiscent of the chasing and popping of bubbles floating through the air during a childhood summer. Her ear to his chest, she could feel more than… Continue reading His

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

On Submission

Too often, the term "submissive" is thrown about as something that is below or beneath its dominant counterpart. I don't think that's how it works.

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Remember the parenthetical (or, talk about the fine print; or, honor all your dimensions)

I'd just started my new job (ten years ago) and I was having dinner with my colleagues in...I think it was in Teaneck? Maybe Philly? Whatever. They were the "cool kids" colleagues. The senior staff on location at this event had all gone to some fancy schmancy restaurant and the rest of us "kids" opted… Continue reading Remember the parenthetical (or, talk about the fine print; or, honor all your dimensions)

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Fantasy Spaces: Dungeon Aftercare Zone

Had a really interesting discussion last night about what an awesome benefit it would be to have designated "aftercare" spaces in public dungeons. Not only would this benefit people who are still coming off the rush of an intense scene, it would also benefit those who find themselves in the socially awkward position of interrupting… Continue reading Fantasy Spaces: Dungeon Aftercare Zone