Kinkstuff

My First “Official” BDSM Experience

He began pulling things out from the suitcase, one at a time, showing them to me - explaining to me what they were, how they were used, and then he'd use it gently on my outstretched arm. After each item he would ask me how I felt about it, have me rate my level of interest in using it, and set it aside.

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Polyammering Podcast Episode 15: Anton Fulmen on the Intersection of Polyamory and Power Exchange

une in for a lengthy and fascinating discussion with Anton Fulmen, a kink and sexuality author and educator who specializes in consensual power exchange.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

My thoughts on defining one’s sexuality

...when I try to break down what people are talking about when they talk about sexuality, I think they're often talking about a bunch of different things that don't all fit in a simple graph or system that's easy to digest.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The one that explains how I think boundaries work

My aunt, on the topic of love, has always said "when you feel, you know..." and I was starting to think that the concept of boundaries was as nebulous as trying to define the concept of love.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Why I sometimes imagine the possibility that I could be polyamorous

Once or twice a year I let my mind wander and imagine what it would be like to have another romantic relationship in addition to the amazing one I'm already in.

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Does the flu shot cause insomina? and other middle-of-the-night musings

I want to do it again. I want to understand why last night my tolerance for pain was so high I couldn't feel any of it; where other nights the sting of a slap on the ass makes the walls turn white.