He began pulling things out from the suitcase, one at a time, showing them to me - explaining to me what they were, how they were used, and then he'd use it gently on my outstretched arm. After each item he would ask me how I felt about it, have me rate my level of interest in using it, and set it aside.
What I know now, I know because I made some mistakes and learned from them. A lot of my guidelines work for me and not necessarily for other people.
A solid, descriptive, and comprehensive negotiation plays a big role in creating the big sexy energy bubble I want to exist in during our scene.
In one of my early posts on Fetlife long ago, I wrote "It's not that I'm lying when I tell you I'm okay; it's that it isn't until much later that I realize I was mistaken." This week, there have been a couple posts out and about that are debating the issue of ...I guess… Continue reading Trust and responsibility in BDSM
...the way a top leads a scene negotiation is usually an indication of their experience and talent in leading the scene itself.
In a funky figure-eight of codependent narcissism, I get nothing out of it if they get nothing out of it, and since I want something out of it, I will damn well ensure they get something out of it.
Where she is "hedonist" I am "pleasure slut." Where I am "bottom" she is "stunt cunt." Where I am "masochist" she is on a level all her own when it comes to pain.