Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

How to take advice in 5 easy steps

Look, I don't know if it's 'cause of the full moon or all the planets in retrograde, which I've been told can have an effect on something, but the past week or so in the advice forums I spend time in have gone bananas. So, I thought I'd take a quick moment to share some… Continue reading How to take advice in 5 easy steps

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

My advice to the partner of a Leeroy Jenkins-style Polyamorist

There is a metric fuckton of self work that has to go into successful polyamory, whether you're on the mono side or the poly side.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The Honesty Exchange (Revisited)

It looks a little bit like the symbol for recycling - not a one-for-one exchange, but symbiotic exchange running on a continuous loop.

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Trust and responsibility in BDSM

In one of my early posts on Fetlife long ago, I wrote "It's not that I'm lying when I tell you I'm okay; it's that it isn't until much later that I realize I was mistaken." This week, there have been a couple posts out and about that are debating the issue of ...I guess… Continue reading Trust and responsibility in BDSM

Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

In which I win at life

Today would have been my sixth wedding anniversary. Those of you who have been following along know the implications of that sentence. Or, rather, you probably think you know. I barely understand the implications of that sentence. On the drive home last night, I realized that where will come a time (approximately two years from… Continue reading In which I win at life