As a monoamorous person who has dated a handful of polyamorous partners over the last four years, I am happy to say that I have never had to increase or reduce the number of people I have wanted to be in a relationship with to make any partner happy.
The Consequences of Consequence Free Devotion
"My partner is extremely jealous. He cheats on me. He locks his phone but insists I keep mine unlocked and that he's allowed to check it whenever he likes. I can't be friends on facebook with any men who aren't related to me, I can never talk to any of my exes, and he is… Continue reading The Consequences of Consequence Free Devotion
How to take advice in 5 easy steps
Look, I don't know if it's 'cause of the full moon or all the planets in retrograde, which I've been told can have an effect on something, but the past week or so in the advice forums I spend time in have gone bananas. So, I thought I'd take a quick moment to share some… Continue reading How to take advice in 5 easy steps
When you imagine your perfect relationship(s), it might be a little bit like a Jenga tower: an eighteen-story stack of 54 wood blocks; organized in pallets of three in alternating directions. It's all the pieces you want....like that mental checklist you have of what "happily ever after" is going to look like for you one… Continue reading Relationship Jenga
My advice to the partner of a Leeroy Jenkins-style Polyamorist
There is a metric fuckton of self work that has to go into successful polyamory, whether you're on the mono side or the poly side.