Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

Move the Goal Post: On relationship “failures”

Imagine thinking that you failed at accepting polyamory in one sentence, and in the next being so fully accepting of his polyamorous identity that you're willing to end the relationship rather than try to force him to change.

Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships, Politics

Non Sequitur – A Birthday Request

My birthday is coming this week. I'll be 39. Save the date for next year. There will be a celebration. But for this year, it's pretty low key. Back in my 20s I set the standard that I only celebrate the Zeros and the Fives with parties, but the rest of the birthdays pass by… Continue reading Non Sequitur – A Birthday Request

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Family Relationships, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

Seven: On the occasion of my wedding anniversary

I wonder, had this been a relay and not a reboot, if he'd been around to meet you, how he would have felt about this quirky situation of ours?

Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Countdown to year three

I'm 11 mornings short of three years. Like with most of my traumas, I'm able to talk about it now with time-seasoned detachment. It's a story that happened to someone else - a different version of me. But sometimes the emotions sneak up on me. Like, when I'm approximately 12 mornings short of three years… Continue reading Countdown to year three

Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships, Memoirs

Can you help me? (Or: Why I’ll never allow a television in my bedroom again)

It's not surprising that he's crept into my thoughts more during the past week. I learned how to Christmas with him in my life. Doesn't help that google likes to remind me what happened "on this day" X years ago. Anything more than 3 years usually includes memories of the time that my label was… Continue reading Can you help me? (Or: Why I’ll never allow a television in my bedroom again)

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Wipe the Glass (Happy Birthday, Tony.)

He'd have been 55 today. I didn't want it to affect me, but I can't pretend it didn't. It's a really strange combination of emotions - knowing that I'm happier and healthier now, knowing that I've found love again and pulled my life back together and survived an incredible loss. And still feeling off on… Continue reading Wipe the Glass (Happy Birthday, Tony.)