Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships

Move the Goal Post: On relationship “failures”

Imagine thinking that you failed at accepting polyamory in one sentence, and in the next being so fully accepting of his polyamorous identity that you're willing to end the relationship rather than try to force him to change.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

When insecurities are driving your relationship(s)

The next thing you know, the insecurity is in control not only of the established relationship, but its tendrils are reaching in and poking at the soft spots in the nascent one as well.

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

(Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit

I have tried nearly every other form of exercise I can think of. Weight lifting. Boot camp. Running. Hiking. Walking. Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Even Tai Chi! I like them for a session or two. I think with that bootcamp workout, I actually stuck it out for a solid month, but that was a long time… Continue reading (Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory

Are you punishing your partner for disappointing you, and is it worth it when it works to get you what you want?

How's Lady Macbeth going to handle it when this tactic turns her into the villain?

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

The other side of the comparison trap

We've been socialized since birth to view everything in terms of "which is better, which is worse" and it's really difficult to unlearn that habit.

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

How to handle feelings you don’t want to be feeling

"...how we internalize [hurt feelings] to send us a message about what our relationship(s) mean to our partner(s) can sometimes be more destructive than [they] need to be. "

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

The Mono + Poly Bill of Rights and Responsibilities

It's a common misconception that in order for a mono person and non-mono person to make it work together, the bulk of the emotional labor falls to the mono person to "get over" the script that society had given them.