She’s right there, asking me “But what If I do have sex with someone else and I end up feeling awful about it? What if I get my heart broken or my ego bruised? What if it makes me so emotional that it scares them off ‘cause now I’m crying and I can’t explain why? What if they feel used because this all turns out to prove that I’m not polyamorous and I can’t do it?”
By now (if you're in the United States), you've likely had at least one conversation about how your polycule is going to handle Thanksgiving (or Friendsgiving), and I'm guessing there's more than a handful of hinge partners out there that are starting to feel the pressure of multiple paramours vying for spots on the holiday calendar.
Zoe, who uses cis pronouns of she/her, is a grad student who is asexual, a-gendered, and in a relationship with a polyamorous partner. She’s a wonderful guest who very patiently answers a lot of my questions on the differences between emotional and romantic connections and what a typical date looks like when sex isn’t the… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 11: Zoe the Asexual Grad Student
What I really want to do is help people understand that there are healthy and unhealthy ways to do either, and there is definitely a way to make it work when a partnership has one of each.
Imagine thinking that you failed at accepting polyamory in one sentence, and in the next being so fully accepting of his polyamorous identity that you're willing to end the relationship rather than try to force him to change.
The next thing you know, the insecurity is in control not only of the established relationship, but its tendrils are reaching in and poking at the soft spots in the nascent one as well.
I have tried nearly every other form of exercise I can think of. Weight lifting. Boot camp. Running. Hiking. Walking. Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Even Tai Chi! I like them for a session or two. I think with that bootcamp workout, I actually stuck it out for a solid month, but that was a long time… Continue reading (Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit