She’s right there, asking me “But what If I do have sex with someone else and I end up feeling awful about it? What if I get my heart broken or my ego bruised? What if it makes me so emotional that it scares them off ‘cause now I’m crying and I can’t explain why? What if they feel used because this all turns out to prove that I’m not polyamorous and I can’t do it?”
...the bottom line is - we don't hate the concept of polyamory. We just don't wanna be poly ourselves.
Try to make a rule that your partner will never develop feelings for a sexual partner and be prepared to find yourself on the business end of a Klingon pain stick.
I accepted that he is hard-wired for polyamory and he accepted that I am hard-wired for monogamy(ish).