Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs, Self-Discovery

Experiencing “top space” through hedonism

...there were moments when my every move stopped being about what I thought would get him excited, and became purely about what was driving my own pleasure.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs

Putting relationships on “hold”

I have such a visceral reaction to the phrase "put my other relationship on hold" in the poly discussion groups. It's usually a phrase uttered when the following scenario applies: The hinge in a "vee" has developed a solid and happy relationship with one partner that going swell, but everything in their additional relationship is… Continue reading Putting relationships on “hold”

Humor, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Phi-ty Shades Darker (SPOILERS)

I decided to smoke some pot and document my live reactions to the film 50 Shades Darker, which is now available on HBO, BTW. Below is the result. There WILL be spoilers here Oh good. She's still stammering and timid. I guess asserting herself with her former Dom didn't give her any confidence after the… Continue reading Phi-ty Shades Darker (SPOILERS)

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs

The Exhibit

Is there a better museum for rare and priceless experiences than words on a page? I could try to preserve all the details - how we began, how many strikes from which implements, how he moved me about the room, how taut the rope felt on my skin, and the way my thighs ached as… Continue reading The Exhibit

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Rules are Condoms: An Imperfect Metaphor

Try to make a rule that your partner will never develop feelings for a sexual partner and be prepared to find yourself on the business end of a Klingon pain stick.

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Tops and Strength and Vulnerability: a post-GRUE post-mortem post

Let's get organized.....Here's what I want to accomplish in this essay: 1) To share my thoughts on a recent discussion in which I both observed and later participated on the subject of Tops/Dominants and vulnerability 2) To explore my own thoughts on "strength" and "weakness" as it pertains to the concept of vulnerability and/or the… Continue reading Tops and Strength and Vulnerability: a post-GRUE post-mortem post

Erotica, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs

November Dribbles: Perfect Circle

Someone over on FetLife created a November Dribble/Drabble challenge.  A drabble is a story made up of exactly 100 words (title not included in this version of the challenge).  A dribble is exactly half that - a story set in 50 words. The challenge is to complete either one drabble a day or one dribble… Continue reading November Dribbles: Perfect Circle