The next thing you know, the insecurity is in control not only of the established relationship, but its tendrils are reaching in and poking at the soft spots in the nascent one as well.
(Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit
I have tried nearly every other form of exercise I can think of. Weight lifting. Boot camp. Running. Hiking. Walking. Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Even Tai Chi! I like them for a session or two. I think with that bootcamp workout, I actually stuck it out for a solid month, but that was a long time… Continue reading (Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit
Are you punishing your partner for disappointing you, and is it worth it when it works to get you what you want?
How's Lady Macbeth going to handle it when this tactic turns her into the villain?
The other side of the comparison trap
We've been socialized since birth to view everything in terms of "which is better, which is worse" and it's really difficult to unlearn that habit.
How to handle feelings you don’t want to be feeling
"...how we internalize [hurt feelings] to send us a message about what our relationship(s) mean to our partner(s) can sometimes be more destructive than [they] need to be. "
The Mono + Poly Bill of Rights and Responsibilities
It's a common misconception that in order for a mono person and non-mono person to make it work together, the bulk of the emotional labor falls to the mono person to "get over" the script that society had given them.
The one that explains how I think boundaries work
My aunt, on the topic of love, has always said "when you feel, you know..." and I was starting to think that the concept of boundaries was as nebulous as trying to define the concept of love.
I went on a date and the world didn’t end
Identities, for me, are not permanent. Well, not all of them, anyway. I allow for plenty of fluidity and lots of possibility for change in my life, so when I say I am monoamorous, I generally mean "have been up to this point in my life."
Texting while Polyamoring
There was that one time when he had me tied up and was in the middle of sexytimes with me when she called...
Toxic Relationship Memes
The patterns exist and are recognizable. They are reinforced by the messages we consume, whether they are generated from the society's large-scale mononormative culture, or the small microcosms of polyamorous subcultures. We internalize and normalize them until we don't even see them anymore.