Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Open Relationships; Closed Minds (a rant)

Note: This is a rant about something I experienced today. I do not think ALL poly people are this way. Not even ALL the poly people in the chatroom where this happened felt this way. Just the very vocal ones. But I'm upset by it and I need to vent, so...boom: blog post. I asked… Continue reading Open Relationships; Closed Minds (a rant)

Love & Relationships

Critical Thinking

Yesterday, NPR reposted a story to their facebook page from 2014. The article title was: Why doesn't America read anymore? If you clicked through to read the article, it wished you a happy April Fool's Day and explained that they wanted to see how many people actually read the stories vs how many people just… Continue reading Critical Thinking

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Remember the parenthetical (or, talk about the fine print; or, honor all your dimensions)

I'd just started my new job (ten years ago) and I was having dinner with my colleagues in...I think it was in Teaneck? Maybe Philly? Whatever. They were the "cool kids" colleagues. The senior staff on location at this event had all gone to some fancy schmancy restaurant and the rest of us "kids" opted… Continue reading Remember the parenthetical (or, talk about the fine print; or, honor all your dimensions)

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

I don’t wonder

And on this one in a billion moment when an arbitrary product of billions of years of evolution picked to be the start of just one of another billion years to come... You chose to be with me.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

“I just want everyone to be happy.”

I had a former partner experience both of his relationships crashing and burning while he attempted desperately to maintain that all he wanted was for "everyone to be happy." The problem was that in that particular set of relationships, there was no way for his two partners to be "happy" the way he wanted.  And there was… Continue reading “I just want everyone to be happy.”

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

So, how does it work? (more poly stuff)

If you haven't figured it out yet, there's someone special in my life. (Cue the fanfare) But, here's the fun part, he's someone special in more than just my life. That's right:  phi, the poster child for monogamites everywhere, is dating a polyamorous guy. (womp womp) Soooooo.....once upon a time I wrote this about my… Continue reading So, how does it work? (more poly stuff)