Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

On biting that apple

What if where you are in your life is EXACTLY where you're supposed to be right now? What would that be like, to stop comparing your current location to a perceived end-game?

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Memoirs, Self-Discovery

This is Forty

I can't fucking wait to see where this decade takes me.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

The exchange rate for exclusivity: A potentially divisive opinion

As a monoamorous person who has dated a handful of polyamorous partners over the last four years, I am happy to say that I have never had to increase or reduce the number of people I have wanted to be in a relationship with to make any partner happy.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

On Camping and Poly + Mono Relationships

If I were a Phyllis, and the only type of "camping" that could work for me was one that included a 24-hour room service menu, 10,000 thread count sheets, and HBO access - then I think we can all agree that it's not really camping.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

It’s not “fine.”

When you're saying "it's fine" and it's clearly not.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Possibilities are not guaranteed

All relationships are a gamble. Poly. Mono. Something in between. Something on another spectrum entirely. There's no guarantee that it will work indefinitely. You can only succeed if you try, but even then...it's not guaranteed. 

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs

Putting relationships on “hold”

I have such a visceral reaction to the phrase "put my other relationship on hold" in the poly discussion groups. It's usually a phrase uttered when the following scenario applies: The hinge in a "vee" has developed a solid and happy relationship with one partner that going swell, but everything in their additional relationship is… Continue reading Putting relationships on “hold”