She’s right there, asking me “But what If I do have sex with someone else and I end up feeling awful about it? What if I get my heart broken or my ego bruised? What if it makes me so emotional that it scares them off ‘cause now I’m crying and I can’t explain why? What if they feel used because this all turns out to prove that I’m not polyamorous and I can’t do it?”
By now (if you're in the United States), you've likely had at least one conversation about how your polycule is going to handle Thanksgiving (or Friendsgiving), and I'm guessing there's more than a handful of hinge partners out there that are starting to feel the pressure of multiple paramours vying for spots on the holiday calendar.
I realized how very few times in my life I've actually allowed myself to fail at anything.
une in for a lengthy and fascinating discussion with Anton Fulmen, a kink and sexuality author and educator who specializes in consensual power exchange.
David Miron (he/him or they/them) is a 60 year old bisexual and polyamorous former methodist pastor, church musician, and certified coach with Erotic Blueprints. We talk about the intersection of religion and polyamory as well as the intersection of polyamory and BDSM. Visit David's website at slutofthecloth.org https://soundcloud.com/polyammering/davidmiron
Meet Kelly (they/them), a nonbinary/genderqueer relationship anarchist who’s about to pull a cross-country move. They also share their outlook on life and dating with a disability caused by Crohn’s Disease, and we bond over our “fake it ‘til you make it” approach to dealing with insecurity. Kelly’s energy is infectious and their insight and approach… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 13: Kelly, the nonbinary, barbie-bummed, relationship anarchist
Meet my metamour, Elre! We recorded this episode back in April 2019 and I'm so glad it's finally being shared with the world, especially during Pride month! Elre is my non-binary, bisexual metamour, and the person who initially introduced me to our shared partner. Eir pronouns are ey/em/eir, but ey also accept they/them. Elre once… Continue reading Podcast Episode 12: Elre the Metamour!
Zoe, who uses cis pronouns of she/her, is a grad student who is asexual, a-gendered, and in a relationship with a polyamorous partner. She’s a wonderful guest who very patiently answers a lot of my questions on the differences between emotional and romantic connections and what a typical date looks like when sex isn’t the… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 11: Zoe the Asexual Grad Student
What I really want to do is help people understand that there are healthy and unhealthy ways to do either, and there is definitely a way to make it work when a partnership has one of each.
Imagine thinking that you failed at accepting polyamory in one sentence, and in the next being so fully accepting of his polyamorous identity that you're willing to end the relationship rather than try to force him to change.