It's a common misconception that in order for a mono person and non-mono person to make it work together, the bulk of the emotional labor falls to the mono person to "get over" the script that society had given them.
Tag: responsibility
Responsible Smut
... I can tell you that when I write, you'll usually find it in there. The consent. The negotiation. The aftercare. I put them in my stories, or at the very least, I acknowledge when they are lacking.
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