People don’t just go from zero to Domly with me. It’s a process. First, I have to have enough interest to play with them at all, and then the play has to be interesting enough for me to want to do it again. For most of them, that’s where it ends. Semi-regular or regular-ish playmate. It’s not a bad position to be in.
Some of them are able to escalate from there. There is a very, *very* small group of playmates that fall under the category of “Oh shit, I can’t say no to him.”
Like…tiny. Very tiny. Like…I think right now it numbers around 2.
How do they level up?
There are a few things, but there’s trait in particular that I’ve noticed seems to work very consistently.
It’s when they check up on my progress on a task they’ve assigned to me that doesn’t benefit them in the slightest. And then they check up on me again to ensure continued completion of assigned task.
This goes beyond the “day after play” check in. That’s something I expect from everyone I play with, and I let them know that in advance. This is someone who stays in contact me above and beyond what is expected or pre-negotiated.
It would be easy to say I don’t know how to describe the feeling that gives me, but I think I can describe it.
It feels like they *care*.
That’s when I find I don’t wan’t to say no to them.
When they care.
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