Note: This is a rant about something I experienced today. I do not think ALL poly people are this way. Not even ALL the poly people in the chatroom where this happened felt this way. Just the very vocal ones. But I'm upset by it and I need to vent, so...boom: blog post. I asked… Continue reading Open Relationships; Closed Minds (a rant)
Tag: communication
Critical Thinking
Yesterday, NPR reposted a story to their facebook page from 2014. The article title was: Why doesn't America read anymore? If you clicked through to read the article, it wished you a happy April Fool's Day and explained that they wanted to see how many people actually read the stories vs how many people just… Continue reading Critical Thinking
Remember the parenthetical (or, talk about the fine print; or, honor all your dimensions)
I'd just started my new job (ten years ago) and I was having dinner with my colleagues in...I think it was in Teaneck? Maybe Philly? Whatever. They were the "cool kids" colleagues. The senior staff on location at this event had all gone to some fancy schmancy restaurant and the rest of us "kids" opted… Continue reading Remember the parenthetical (or, talk about the fine print; or, honor all your dimensions)
I don’t wonder
And on this one in a billion moment when an arbitrary product of billions of years of evolution picked to be the start of just one of another billion years to come... You chose to be with me.
I don’t ask for promises anymore
Excuses piled on top of excuses wouldn't change the fact that their base-level word was not enough, and their promises were fragile at best.
“I just want everyone to be happy.”
I had a former partner experience both of his relationships crashing and burning while he attempted desperately to maintain that all he wanted was for "everyone to be happy." The problem was that in that particular set of relationships, there was no way for his two partners to be "happy" the way he wanted.  And there was… Continue reading “I just want everyone to be happy.”
So, how does it work? (more poly stuff)
If you haven't figured it out yet, there's someone special in my life. (Cue the fanfare) But, here's the fun part, he's someone special in more than just my life. That's right: Â phi, the poster child for monogamites everywhere, is dating a polyamorous guy. (womp womp) Soooooo.....once upon a time I wrote this about my… Continue reading So, how does it work? (more poly stuff)
The distance between want and need
I used to describe myself as "needy," and have since stopped using that qualifier, because I'm not needy. I'm very "wanty."
Conducting Scene Negotiations from the Bottom
...the way a top leads a scene negotiation is usually an indication of their experience and talent in leading the scene itself.
On holding a dominant to his own rules
That's not what I wanted, but it's what he thought was best and he was the Dom.
