There is so fucking much I want to say.
It’s not “fine.”
When you're saying "it's fine" and it's clearly not.
Possibilities are not guaranteed
All relationships are a gamble. Poly. Mono. Something in between. Something on another spectrum entirely. There's no guarantee that it will work indefinitely. You can only succeed if you try, but even then...it's not guaranteed.
Putting relationships on “hold”
I have such a visceral reaction to the phrase "put my other relationship on hold" in the poly discussion groups. It's usually a phrase uttered when the following scenario applies: The hinge in a "vee" has developed a solid and happy relationship with one partner that going swell, but everything in their additional relationship is… Continue reading Putting relationships on “hold”
Phi-ty Shades Darker (SPOILERS)
I decided to smoke some pot and document my live reactions to the film 50 Shades Darker, which is now available on HBO, BTW. Below is the result. There WILL be spoilers here Oh good. She's still stammering and timid. I guess asserting herself with her former Dom didn't give her any confidence after the… Continue reading Phi-ty Shades Darker (SPOILERS)
Family Holidays for the Non-Anchor Partners
I adapted. Thanksgiving isn't a Thursday holiday anymore. Now it's a Friday. Christmas happens several days later. Sometimes New Years eve is a day earlier or a day or two later, as well.
Roller Coasters and Trampolines
Do your ups and downs have forward motion -- or do you keep revisiting the same spot over and over again?
Taking Flight
This isn't only about them and their goals. It's about our goals together.
phi-is-me, too.
I realized that for every #MeToo we were looking at on social media, there were countless who were still hesitant to post.
My Exhibitionism
Every once in a while, the fact that I'm an exhibitionist becomes a bit of a problem for me. See, it used to be easier to scratch that itch. I wouldn't say it was any safer, but I guess I just felt safer for a while. Then I had my very unsavory experience with a stalker and now I… Continue reading My Exhibitionism
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