What I really want to do is help people understand that there are healthy and unhealthy ways to do either, and there is definitely a way to make it work when a partnership has one of each.
Move the Goal Post: On relationship “failures”
Imagine thinking that you failed at accepting polyamory in one sentence, and in the next being so fully accepting of his polyamorous identity that you're willing to end the relationship rather than try to force him to change.
Thoughts on the “Green Flags” in relationships meme
There's a new meme going around, and I like a LOT of what it has to say. In case you haven't seen it, it's the one that suggests a more positive approach to evaluating your relationship(s). Instead of looking for "red flags," it invites people to look at the "green flags."
Polyammering Podcast Episode 10: Kyra Grosman
Kyra Grosman is a Brooklyn-based therapist who’s doing something really interesting – he is offering consultation and ongoing supervision for mental health professionals who are working with polyamorous or ethically nonmonogamous patients. Kyra himself has a fascinating story that he shares with us. He doesn’t actually identify as polyamorous himself, but more along the lines… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 10: Kyra Grosman
When insecurities are driving your relationship(s)
The next thing you know, the insecurity is in control not only of the established relationship, but its tendrils are reaching in and poking at the soft spots in the nascent one as well.
(Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit
I have tried nearly every other form of exercise I can think of. Weight lifting. Boot camp. Running. Hiking. Walking. Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Even Tai Chi! I like them for a session or two. I think with that bootcamp workout, I actually stuck it out for a solid month, but that was a long time… Continue reading (Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit
Polyammering Podcast Episode 08 – Bacon the Rigger
Bacon the rigger talks about his five year on-and-off journey with polyamory culminating in an open polyamorous relationship with his wife, girlfriend, and partner. He tells the story of opening up to his family about both kink and polyamory, and sheds some wisdom on what he's learned over the past few years. Plus, we talk… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 08 – Bacon the Rigger
Polyammering Podcast Episode 07: Seren on navigating mental illness and polyamory
Seren (they/them) is bi-gendered and bisexual and lives in the Philadelphia area. Seren’s someone I met through the polyamory facebook groups a few years ago. They’ve made so much progress in that time in understanding how to navigate polyamory with mental illness, since being diagnosed with Bipolar 2, Borderline Personality Disorder, and PTSD. Seren has… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 07: Seren on navigating mental illness and polyamory
Are you punishing your partner for disappointing you, and is it worth it when it works to get you what you want?
How's Lady Macbeth going to handle it when this tactic turns her into the villain?
Polyammering Podcast: Episode 03 – Kara the Mama
Kara (she/her) and her husband have been together 15 years and have a 9 year-old daughter. How did they approach opening up their marriage 4.5 years ago, and what's changed since then?