Don't be a Darren.
Tag: metaphor
Growing Pains
I can't words right. So, I'll just spew it out: This past weekend was a huge one for me on a professional level. I was given my opportunity to shine, and shine I did. The right people saw it. Ten years at this organization and, for the first time, I felt like I had my… Continue reading Growing Pains
Change your Cookbook: A monogamuggle’s guide to cookin’ with polyfolk
First, I'll establish my credentials: I'm a monogamous (or mono-amorous) person in a relationship with a polyamorous man. My monogamy is my choice, not necessarily his preference just as his polyamory is his choice, not necessarily my preference. We've been at it for just over a year now and it's going really swell. I have,… Continue reading Change your Cookbook: A monogamuggle’s guide to cookin’ with polyfolk
From the secret archives: Passing the Torch
For you, I am not descended from the heavens but grown from the earth.
Quick poly analogy about “fairness”
"If you ate a cookie and my cookie fell on the floor in the middle of a New York City gutter, you have to find the nearest restroom facility and puke up your cookie."
Deconstructing the destruction: How Professor Snape and Lily Potter’s eyes can help you process your most recent breakup
I used to "fall in love" online every twenty-two minutes. That's an exaggeration, but suffice it to say that as a very young adult (and sometimes teenager) I would meet people online and start developing emotional attachments to them very quickly. It was easy to do this. I didn't know they snored. Or subscribed to… Continue reading Deconstructing the destruction: How Professor Snape and Lily Potter’s eyes can help you process your most recent breakup
Don’t “Dutch Oven” Your Partner(s)
It's a common thread in the poly relationship advice forums. (Usually) the "primary" (or longer-term) partner starts to feel that their partner is taking advantage of NRE and/or taking the longevity of their relationship for granted. Examples: "He takes his other partners out who don't have jobs or cars and spends a lot of money… Continue reading Don’t “Dutch Oven” Your Partner(s)
Continuing Education: A Delicate Rant
...in order to maintain their good standing in their field they are required to participate in a minimum number of hours of continuing education, or they lose the right to practice under the guise of being "licensed" or "certified."
Shards of Glass
When you find the source of your jealousy/insecurity, you can start doing the work to address why you behave the way you do.
Investment
I once had a lover tell me to make him feel loved.
polyammering 