Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Wipe the Glass (Happy Birthday, Tony.)

He'd have been 55 today. I didn't want it to affect me, but I can't pretend it didn't. It's a really strange combination of emotions - knowing that I'm happier and healthier now, knowing that I've found love again and pulled my life back together and survived an incredible loss. And still feeling off on… Continue reading Wipe the Glass (Happy Birthday, Tony.)

Love & Relationships

Deconstructing the destruction: How Professor Snape and Lily Potter’s eyes can help you process your most recent breakup

I used to "fall in love" online every twenty-two minutes. That's an exaggeration, but suffice it to say that as a very young adult (and sometimes teenager) I would meet people online and start developing emotional attachments to them very quickly. It was easy to do this. I didn't know they snored. Or subscribed to… Continue reading Deconstructing the destruction: How Professor Snape and Lily Potter’s eyes can help you process your most recent breakup

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The Ask: Kinky Edition

Apparently I have a superpower: I can ask for what I want with minimal fear. It's not a super power, really. It might be why I'm well-suited for my job (asking people for large sums of money to fund a charitable organization). Here's the trick: I ask for things people pretty much want to give.… Continue reading The Ask: Kinky Edition

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Willie Nelson and Monstrous Gorillas

I've got Willie Nelson's nasal voice in my head singing "you are always on my mind," on the upswing.  The first time he says it in the verse when it sounds hopeful, not the second time when it sounds complacent. Last night I had a dream I was driving a white van with a bunch… Continue reading Willie Nelson and Monstrous Gorillas

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

The Polyamorous Boogeyman

They're like condoms for poly-style relationships. They might help keep you safe, but the only way to really be sure is abstinence from relationships entirely.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

I Dream of Poly

It was the first time I'd encountered Tony in a dream since his death that wasn't laced with fear, angst, anger, or disappointment.