Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

A love letter to my friends

The other day, I read the words "I deserve to be surrounded by people who appreciate me..." and saw a writing in which someone wrote a letter to her partner's partners. Two different writings that I've since lost track of. So, with the full disclosure of where this particular writing is coming from, understand that… Continue reading A love letter to my friends

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

I Choo Choo Choose You!

The topic of the "Veto" came up recently in conversation. While engaging in very healthy communication and negotiation with a new partner, a friend of mine was told that their partner's wife had "limited veto power." Which made the collective group go *gulp*. My friend communicated back (because yay communication!) for clarification on what "limited… Continue reading I Choo Choo Choose You!

Erotica, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Can you tell me how to get…

  Clamps one and two were fastened to each nipple from the top; the chain lifted and inserted into her mouth where it was held between clenched teeth. Clamps three and four, also each attached to her nipples, but from the bottom.  The chain lay resting against her belly. He hovered over her. A third chain… Continue reading Can you tell me how to get…

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Wipe the Glass (Happy Birthday, Tony.)

He'd have been 55 today. I didn't want it to affect me, but I can't pretend it didn't. It's a really strange combination of emotions - knowing that I'm happier and healthier now, knowing that I've found love again and pulled my life back together and survived an incredible loss. And still feeling off on… Continue reading Wipe the Glass (Happy Birthday, Tony.)

Love & Relationships

Deconstructing the destruction: How Professor Snape and Lily Potter’s eyes can help you process your most recent breakup

I used to "fall in love" online every twenty-two minutes. That's an exaggeration, but suffice it to say that as a very young adult (and sometimes teenager) I would meet people online and start developing emotional attachments to them very quickly. It was easy to do this. I didn't know they snored. Or subscribed to… Continue reading Deconstructing the destruction: How Professor Snape and Lily Potter’s eyes can help you process your most recent breakup

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The Ask: Kinky Edition

Apparently I have a superpower: I can ask for what I want with minimal fear. It's not a super power, really. It might be why I'm well-suited for my job (asking people for large sums of money to fund a charitable organization). Here's the trick: I ask for things people pretty much want to give.… Continue reading The Ask: Kinky Edition

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Willie Nelson and Monstrous Gorillas

I've got Willie Nelson's nasal voice in my head singing "you are always on my mind," on the upswing.  The first time he says it in the verse when it sounds hopeful, not the second time when it sounds complacent. Last night I had a dream I was driving a white van with a bunch… Continue reading Willie Nelson and Monstrous Gorillas