The topic of the "Veto" came up recently in conversation. While engaging in very healthy communication and negotiation with a new partner, a friend of mine was told that their partner's wife had "limited veto power." Which made the collective group go *gulp*. My friend communicated back (because yay communication!) for clarification on what "limited… Continue reading I Choo Choo Choose You!
"If you ate a cookie and my cookie fell on the floor in the middle of a New York City gutter, you have to find the nearest restroom facility and puke up your cookie."
I have lots of collars. Lots and lots and lots. They're accessories, though, like the many many rings i have and wear when I'm dressing up for a special occasion. But not like the rings I keep tucked in a special box in my jewelry drawer: my engagement and wedding rings. Those are different. Those… Continue reading The Collar
Note: This is a rant about something I experienced today. I do not think ALL poly people are this way. Not even ALL the poly people in the chatroom where this happened felt this way. Just the very vocal ones. But I'm upset by it and I need to vent, so...boom: blog post. I asked… Continue reading Open Relationships; Closed Minds (a rant)
It's a common thread in the poly relationship advice forums. (Usually) the "primary" (or longer-term) partner starts to feel that their partner is taking advantage of NRE and/or taking the longevity of their relationship for granted. Examples: "He takes his other partners out who don't have jobs or cars and spends a lot of money… Continue reading Don’t “Dutch Oven” Your Partner(s)
They're like condoms for poly-style relationships. They might help keep you safe, but the only way to really be sure is abstinence from relationships entirely.
It was the first time I'd encountered Tony in a dream since his death that wasn't laced with fear, angst, anger, or disappointment.
And so began the little game where he's Peter Parker to the clown's Spiderman. He knows how to summon him. But he's totally not him.
And on this one in a billion moment when an arbitrary product of billions of years of evolution picked to be the start of just one of another billion years to come... You chose to be with me.
But poly guys do not have the market cornered on inducing heartbreak.
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