I adapted. Thanksgiving isn't a Thursday holiday anymore. Now it's a Friday. Christmas happens several days later. Sometimes New Years eve is a day earlier or a day or two later, as well.
Category: Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory
Roller Coasters and Trampolines
Do your ups and downs have forward motion -- or do you keep revisiting the same spot over and over again?
phi-is-me, too.
I realized that for every #MeToo we were looking at on social media, there were countless who were still hesitant to post.
The Consequences of Consequence Free Devotion
"My partner is extremely jealous. He cheats on me. He locks his phone but insists I keep mine unlocked and that he's allowed to check it whenever he likes. I can't be friends on facebook with any men who aren't related to me, I can never talk to any of my exes, and he is… Continue reading The Consequences of Consequence Free Devotion
Thoughts: One Post, Many Topics
Too many different things in my head. Rather than post a bunch of blogs in one night, I'm doing the ol' One Blog, Multiple Thoughts post. First up - I received an email from findpoly.com asking if they could sponsor one of my blog posts for the month. So, I've upgraded the wordpress plan to… Continue reading Thoughts: One Post, Many Topics
Some thoughts on Hierarchy vs Couples Privilege
The subject of hierarchy comes up often in poly discussion groups. People generally fall into the camps of "hierarchy is fine" or "hierarchy is evil" and usually those who fall into the former are at the top of the pyramid, and those in the latter have been burned by being at the bottom. I think… Continue reading Some thoughts on Hierarchy vs Couples Privilege
A Walk in the Desert: On taking things at the pace of the slowest person
There's a saying I've been hearing from people in poly circles over the past couple of months, in regards to opening up a relationship: "It's best to take it at the pace of the slowest person." Last night I heard it in a sightly different way, "to take it at the pace of the slowest… Continue reading A Walk in the Desert: On taking things at the pace of the slowest person
Your Kink is Not My Kink, but Your Words Fucking Matter
Imagine if I were to ask if anybody else out there has a kink of "playing poly." When asked to explain what I mean by "playing at poly," I described it as "you know, like when you pretend to sleep with everyone indiscriminately and not give a shit about what your partners think." I'll just… Continue reading Your Kink is Not My Kink, but Your Words Fucking Matter
Can I talk to you about something serious for a sec?
Content warning: Death and death-related topics ahead I've heard my boss say, on more than one occasion, that "nobody gets out of life alive." She doesn't say a lot that's worth repeating, but this is one of her finest and most salient comments. We're all gonna die one day. And yes, many of us hope… Continue reading Can I talk to you about something serious for a sec?
The Monocorn Sanctuary
...the bottom line is - we don't hate the concept of polyamory. We just don't wanna be poly ourselves.
polyammering 