Imagine thinking that you failed at accepting polyamory in one sentence, and in the next being so fully accepting of his polyamorous identity that you're willing to end the relationship rather than try to force him to change.
Category: Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory
Thoughts on the “Green Flags” in relationships meme
There's a new meme going around, and I like a LOT of what it has to say. In case you haven't seen it, it's the one that suggests a more positive approach to evaluating your relationship(s). Instead of looking for "red flags," it invites people to look at the "green flags."
When insecurities are driving your relationship(s)
The next thing you know, the insecurity is in control not only of the established relationship, but its tendrils are reaching in and poking at the soft spots in the nascent one as well.
(Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit
I have tried nearly every other form of exercise I can think of. Weight lifting. Boot camp. Running. Hiking. Walking. Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Even Tai Chi! I like them for a session or two. I think with that bootcamp workout, I actually stuck it out for a solid month, but that was a long time… Continue reading (Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit
Are you punishing your partner for disappointing you, and is it worth it when it works to get you what you want?
How's Lady Macbeth going to handle it when this tactic turns her into the villain?
The other side of the comparison trap
We've been socialized since birth to view everything in terms of "which is better, which is worse" and it's really difficult to unlearn that habit.
My thoughts on defining one’s sexuality
...when I try to break down what people are talking about when they talk about sexuality, I think they're often talking about a bunch of different things that don't all fit in a simple graph or system that's easy to digest.
How to handle feelings you don’t want to be feeling
"...how we internalize [hurt feelings] to send us a message about what our relationship(s) mean to our partner(s) can sometimes be more destructive than [they] need to be. "
A Valentine’s Day Message for Everyone
Once upon a time I thought it was super duper important...
The Mono + Poly Bill of Rights and Responsibilities
It's a common misconception that in order for a mono person and non-mono person to make it work together, the bulk of the emotional labor falls to the mono person to "get over" the script that society had given them.
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