Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

The exchange rate for exclusivity: A potentially divisive opinion

As a monoamorous person who has dated a handful of polyamorous partners over the last four years, I am happy to say that I have never had to increase or reduce the number of people I have wanted to be in a relationship with to make any partner happy.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

On Camping and Poly + Mono Relationships

If I were a Phyllis, and the only type of "camping" that could work for me was one that included a 24-hour room service menu, 10,000 thread count sheets, and HBO access - then I think we can all agree that it's not really camping.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Self-Discovery

A New Chapter Begins

There's a little voice in my head that asks "Why do you feel like you have anything more/different to offer than anybody else who is already doing it?"

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

It’s not “fine.”

When you're saying "it's fine" and it's clearly not.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

Possibilities are not guaranteed

All relationships are a gamble. Poly. Mono. Something in between. Something on another spectrum entirely. There's no guarantee that it will work indefinitely. You can only succeed if you try, but even then...it's not guaranteed. 

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs

Putting relationships on “hold”

I have such a visceral reaction to the phrase "put my other relationship on hold" in the poly discussion groups. It's usually a phrase uttered when the following scenario applies: The hinge in a "vee" has developed a solid and happy relationship with one partner that going swell, but everything in their additional relationship is… Continue reading Putting relationships on “hold”

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Family Relationships, Love & Relationships

Family Holidays for the Non-Anchor Partners

I adapted. Thanksgiving isn't a Thursday holiday anymore. Now it's a Friday. Christmas happens several days later. Sometimes New Years eve is a day earlier or a day or two later, as well.