Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Rules are Condoms: An Imperfect Metaphor

Try to make a rule that your partner will never develop feelings for a sexual partner and be prepared to find yourself on the business end of a Klingon pain stick.

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Cold Water

I stammered and resisted. He grabbed hold of my wrist and pulled me toward the shower door. I watched as he pushed the handle away from "hot" to "cold" and held me there.

Family Relationships, Politics, Self-Discovery

Good Girls Revolt (quietly?)

I spent the day yesterday watching the one season of "Good Girls Revolt," an Amazon original that had sneaked under my radar when it was released a few years ago. It's historical fiction based on the real-life 1970 lawsuit filed against Newsweek by 46 of their female staff for gender discrimination. Only 10 episodes. Worth… Continue reading Good Girls Revolt (quietly?)

Family Relationships, Humor, Self-Discovery

Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (Thoughts on the TV show)

I started watching it for the humor and the silly musical numbers. No, wait...I started watching it because of her. Rachel Bloom. I'd become aware of her last summer watching an episode of Lip Sync Battles, and felt drawn to her persona. It's not often I look at someone and think I see a physical… Continue reading Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (Thoughts on the TV show)

Politics, Self-Discovery

I’ve joined Dumbledore’s Army

Last night I had what was best described as a "mind-blowing carnal experience." I don't recall a time I have ever so relished and given in to the absolutely hedonistic joy of being alive, in love, and in glorious rapture. So much so that for a brief moment in the midst of uncontrollable orgasms, I… Continue reading I’ve joined Dumbledore’s Army

Loss and Grieving, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Countdown to year three

I'm 11 mornings short of three years. Like with most of my traumas, I'm able to talk about it now with time-seasoned detachment. It's a story that happened to someone else - a different version of me. But sometimes the emotions sneak up on me. Like, when I'm approximately 12 mornings short of three years… Continue reading Countdown to year three

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Another Post-Grue Post: Part 1 – Addressing the needs of each relationship

I'm a fan of using precise language to break down concepts in my own head. For example, differentiating between "my night" and "the night he spends with me" in relation to my partner and how he divides his time among his partners. Key word: His time. Does it mean the same thing if I'm trying… Continue reading Another Post-Grue Post: Part 1 – Addressing the needs of each relationship