Imagine if I were to ask if anybody else out there has a kink of "playing poly." When asked to explain what I mean by "playing at poly," I described it as "you know, like when you pretend to sleep with everyone indiscriminately and not give a shit about what your partners think." I'll just… Continue reading Your Kink is Not My Kink, but Your Words Fucking Matter
I won't have been the first person to write this, nor will I likely be the last. I, like so many others, am just one of the many who - in shedding some of the (perhaps unintentional) burdens laid upon my psyche by the patriarchal system that dominates our society - has come to regard… Continue reading On Compliments
Content warning: Death and death-related topics ahead I've heard my boss say, on more than one occasion, that "nobody gets out of life alive." She doesn't say a lot that's worth repeating, but this is one of her finest and most salient comments. We're all gonna die one day. And yes, many of us hope… Continue reading Can I talk to you about something serious for a sec?
Some time ago, there was a post about sex toys and the conversation turned to some gizmo that was making waves (of the orgasmic caliber) a few hours south of here. Now, back in the day, I used to write sex toy reviews for AVN under a different pseudonym, and I'd NEVER had any experience… Continue reading Satisfyer Pro 2: A Review
Whether or not this pans out, something extraordinary has happened.... I sat in a room yesterday being interviewed for a position for which three weeks ago, I don't think I'd have had the cojones to apply. Three weeks ago I was questioning if I even want to stay in this sector. I was questioning if… Continue reading On Leadership
Look, I don't know if it's 'cause of the full moon or all the planets in retrograde, which I've been told can have an effect on something, but the past week or so in the advice forums I spend time in have gone bananas. So, I thought I'd take a quick moment to share some… Continue reading How to take advice in 5 easy steps
I got to play last night.
...the bottom line is - we don't hate the concept of polyamory. We just don't wanna be poly ourselves.
The most frequent statement I read from people trying to transition into polyamorous relationships for their partner is the sense that they feel like they are "not enough." Whenever I see that line, my heart sort of aches for them. I understand that feeling and where it comes from, but somehow it doesn't affect me… Continue reading The thing about not feeling “enough”
When you imagine your perfect relationship(s), it might be a little bit like a Jenga tower: an eighteen-story stack of 54 wood blocks; organized in pallets of three in alternating directions. It's all the pieces you want....like that mental checklist you have of what "happily ever after" is going to look like for you one… Continue reading Relationship Jenga
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