The next thing you know, the insecurity is in control not only of the established relationship, but its tendrils are reaching in and poking at the soft spots in the nascent one as well.
Category: Love & Relationships
(Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit
I have tried nearly every other form of exercise I can think of. Weight lifting. Boot camp. Running. Hiking. Walking. Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Even Tai Chi! I like them for a session or two. I think with that bootcamp workout, I actually stuck it out for a solid month, but that was a long time… Continue reading (Not Quite) Everything you need to know about working through the trials of opening up, I learned through crossfit
Polyammering Podcast Episode 06: Sarah the Solo Poly Sweetheart
Sarah Underwood is a theatre professional in New York City who identifies as bisexual and polyamorous. She transitioned into polyamory about four years ago while still with her monogamous partner, whom she’d met at 19 years old. Now in her 30s, Sarah’s relationship landscape looks very different than how it did back then. Enjoy episode… Continue reading Polyammering Podcast Episode 06: Sarah the Solo Poly Sweetheart
The other side of the comparison trap
We've been socialized since birth to view everything in terms of "which is better, which is worse" and it's really difficult to unlearn that habit.
My thoughts on defining one’s sexuality
...when I try to break down what people are talking about when they talk about sexuality, I think they're often talking about a bunch of different things that don't all fit in a simple graph or system that's easy to digest.
How to handle feelings you don’t want to be feeling
"...how we internalize [hurt feelings] to send us a message about what our relationship(s) mean to our partner(s) can sometimes be more destructive than [they] need to be. "
A Valentine’s Day Message for Everyone
Once upon a time I thought it was super duper important...
The Mono + Poly Bill of Rights and Responsibilities
It's a common misconception that in order for a mono person and non-mono person to make it work together, the bulk of the emotional labor falls to the mono person to "get over" the script that society had given them.
In which I share my mission and ask for your support
I started blogging regularly on June 22, 2014. It was only two or three years ago that I began to cross-post my writing here for public consumption, but in all - I have posted 1145 writings between here and over on Fetlife. I don't even have to look to remember what my first post was… Continue reading In which I share my mission and ask for your support
The one that explains how I think boundaries work
My aunt, on the topic of love, has always said "when you feel, you know..." and I was starting to think that the concept of boundaries was as nebulous as trying to define the concept of love.
