Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

The other side of the comparison trap

We've been socialized since birth to view everything in terms of "which is better, which is worse" and it's really difficult to unlearn that habit.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

My thoughts on defining one’s sexuality

...when I try to break down what people are talking about when they talk about sexuality, I think they're often talking about a bunch of different things that don't all fit in a simple graph or system that's easy to digest.

Coaching | Mentoring, Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

How to handle feelings you don’t want to be feeling

"...how we internalize [hurt feelings] to send us a message about what our relationship(s) mean to our partner(s) can sometimes be more destructive than [they] need to be. "

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

The Mono + Poly Bill of Rights and Responsibilities

It's a common misconception that in order for a mono person and non-mono person to make it work together, the bulk of the emotional labor falls to the mono person to "get over" the script that society had given them.

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In which I share my mission and ask for your support

I started blogging regularly on June 22, 2014. It was only two or three years ago that I began to cross-post my writing here for public consumption, but in all - I have posted 1145 writings between here and over on Fetlife. I don't even have to look to remember what my first post was… Continue reading In which I share my mission and ask for your support

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

The one that explains how I think boundaries work

My aunt, on the topic of love, has always said "when you feel, you know..." and I was starting to think that the concept of boundaries was as nebulous as trying to define the concept of love.