There is a metric fuckton of self work that has to go into successful polyamory, whether you're on the mono side or the poly side.
Tag: love
The Honesty Exchange (Revisited)
It looks a little bit like the symbol for recycling - not a one-for-one exchange, but symbiotic exchange running on a continuous loop.
Seven: On the occasion of my wedding anniversary
I wonder, had this been a relay and not a reboot, if he'd been around to meet you, how he would have felt about this quirky situation of ours?
Cold Water
I stammered and resisted. He grabbed hold of my wrist and pulled me toward the shower door. I watched as he pushed the handle away from "hot" to "cold" and held me there.
What’s next?
He'd been driving at least an hour to get to my house. He'd told me before he left that he'd want a shower upon arrival, so I responded that I'd wait to take mine with him. He also usually wanted a drink, and sometimes a smoke. And at some point, we were going to have… Continue reading What’s next?
Tourists in Dropland
Those of us who've spent some time in the kink/BDSM world are eventually educated on the concept of "drop." Google "BDSM drop" and you'll get over 770,000 mostly relevant results. After an extreme experience, there's a period of time that last hours or days, or depending on the longevity or intensity of the experience -… Continue reading Tourists in Dropland
The Frustration with French Fries
The most painful part of my monthly waxing isn't the part where she's ripping the hair out my most sensitive places. It's having to maintain a conversation with her for the two hours I spend on her table. Yes, two hours. She's meticulous. She's "tweezers to the ass crack" meticulous. This is why I put… Continue reading The Frustration with French Fries
Can you help me? (Or: Why I’ll never allow a television in my bedroom again)
It's not surprising that he's crept into my thoughts more during the past week. I learned how to Christmas with him in my life. Doesn't help that google likes to remind me what happened "on this day" X years ago. Anything more than 3 years usually includes memories of the time that my label was… Continue reading Can you help me? (Or: Why I’ll never allow a television in my bedroom again)
Don’t you get jealous?
Usually when I tell people that my relationship is unconventional, they have one of two reactions: Â curiosity or concern. Â Nobody has really shunned me for it. Â Some people have surprised me and shared that I'm not the first person they've met who's been involved in a poly-type relationship. By and large, the most frequent question… Continue reading Don’t you get jealous?
Irreplaceable
I had a dream last night. It involved time travel. There was one of him and he was going through time collecting all of me at different ages and in different timelines. It was like a poly dream where he was still my only one, but he had several of me and he loved them… Continue reading Irreplaceable
polyammering 