Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Trust and responsibility in BDSM

In one of my early posts on Fetlife long ago, I wrote "It's not that I'm lying when I tell you I'm okay; it's that it isn't until much later that I realize I was mistaken." This week, there have been a couple posts out and about that are debating the issue of ...I guess… Continue reading Trust and responsibility in BDSM

Erotica, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Memoirs

One Lucky Whore

When I miss him, I ask if I can "see" him and he sends me a selfie. I was still three days away from seeing him again. He sent me a selfie. He was smiling in it. "is that smile for me?" I asked him. "The smile. The photo. The excitement." I grinned. "Oh, but… Continue reading One Lucky Whore

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships, Self-Discovery

Submission and control: an introspective essay about the inverse proportionality of job satisfaction and my craving to submit

I want to submit because I want to feel control again. Sounds weird, right? Usually people talk about submission as the idea of giving up control.

Ethical Nonmonogamy | Polyamory, Love & Relationships

I Choo Choo Choose You!

The topic of the "Veto" came up recently in conversation. While engaging in very healthy communication and negotiation with a new partner, a friend of mine was told that their partner's wife had "limited veto power." Which made the collective group go *gulp*. My friend communicated back (because yay communication!) for clarification on what "limited… Continue reading I Choo Choo Choose You!

Erotica, Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

Can you tell me how to get…

  Clamps one and two were fastened to each nipple from the top; the chain lifted and inserted into her mouth where it was held between clenched teeth. Clamps three and four, also each attached to her nipples, but from the bottom. ┬áThe chain lay resting against her┬ábelly. He hovered over her. A third chain… Continue reading Can you tell me how to get…

Kinkstuff, Love & Relationships

On Submission

Too often, the term "submissive" is thrown about as something that is below or beneath its dominant counterpart. I don't think that's how it works.