There is a metric fuckton of self work that has to go into successful polyamory, whether you're on the mono side or the poly side.
Tag: relationships
Rules are Condoms: An Imperfect Metaphor
Try to make a rule that your partner will never develop feelings for a sexual partner and be prepared to find yourself on the business end of a Klingon pain stick.
Unexpected Possibilities
Is marriage your destination, or just a potential stop on your great journey?
Derwood
Don't be a Darren.
Good Girls Revolt (quietly?)
I spent the day yesterday watching the one season of "Good Girls Revolt," an Amazon original that had sneaked under my radar when it was released a few years ago. It's historical fiction based on the real-life 1970 lawsuit filed against Newsweek by 46 of their female staff for gender discrimination. Only 10 episodes. Worth… Continue reading Good Girls Revolt (quietly?)
Another post-GRUE Post: Part 2 – Ownership of time
In the first part of this post, I shared my epiphany on thinking in terms of needs of a relationship instead of talking about the needs of a person. But then I had to go to work, because I'm a responsible adult and stuff, who fills my time with all manner of things that are… Continue reading Another post-GRUE Post: Part 2 – Ownership of time
Another Post-Grue Post: Part 1 – Addressing the needs of each relationship
I'm a fan of using precise language to break down concepts in my own head. For example, differentiating between "my night" and "the night he spends with me" in relation to my partner and how he divides his time among his partners. Key word: His time. Does it mean the same thing if I'm trying… Continue reading Another Post-Grue Post: Part 1 – Addressing the needs of each relationship
Tops and Strength and Vulnerability: a post-GRUE post-mortem post
Let's get organized.....Here's what I want to accomplish in this essay: 1) To share my thoughts on a recent discussion in which I both observed and later participated on the subject of Tops/Dominants and vulnerability 2) To explore my own thoughts on "strength" and "weakness" as it pertains to the concept of vulnerability and/or the… Continue reading Tops and Strength and Vulnerability: a post-GRUE post-mortem post
Don’t you get jealous?
Usually when I tell people that my relationship is unconventional, they have one of two reactions: Â curiosity or concern. Â Nobody has really shunned me for it. Â Some people have surprised me and shared that I'm not the first person they've met who's been involved in a poly-type relationship. By and large, the most frequent question… Continue reading Don’t you get jealous?
Irreplaceable
I had a dream last night. It involved time travel. There was one of him and he was going through time collecting all of me at different ages and in different timelines. It was like a poly dream where he was still my only one, but he had several of me and he loved them… Continue reading Irreplaceable
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