I can't fucking wait to see where this decade takes me.
Category: Love & Relationships
From the Archives: A love letter to people I don’t like
My perception of you isn't the yardstick by which you should measure your success in life.
Experiencing “top space” through hedonism
...there were moments when my every move stopped being about what I thought would get him excited, and became purely about what was driving my own pleasure.
The exchange rate for exclusivity: A potentially divisive opinion
As a monoamorous person who has dated a handful of polyamorous partners over the last four years, I am happy to say that I have never had to increase or reduce the number of people I have wanted to be in a relationship with to make any partner happy.
On Camping and Poly + Mono Relationships
If I were a Phyllis, and the only type of "camping" that could work for me was one that included a 24-hour room service menu, 10,000 thread count sheets, and HBO access - then I think we can all agree that it's not really camping.
Yet another essay about want and need and overcoming codependency
From the archives: This post was originally published on Fetlife a few years ago. I'm starting to transfer some of those posts over here. This one's hard for me to write. I've started it several times and abandoned it along the way. It's about need. In a previous writing that a lot of you did… Continue reading Yet another essay about want and need and overcoming codependency
I’m not allowed to hurt myself
I'm craving the escalation of everything. I want kisses with teeth. I want hugs with claws and texture. I don't want to be led, I want to be thrown, forced, and taken.
Why I think you want to hurt me
Do you sacrifice the pleasure of your flesh for the frisson of your power?
It’s not “fine.”
When you're saying "it's fine" and it's clearly not.
Possibilities are not guaranteed
All relationships are a gamble. Poly. Mono. Something in between. Something on another spectrum entirely. There's no guarantee that it will work indefinitely. You can only succeed if you try, but even then...it's not guaranteed.Â
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